How To Give A Compliment Sincerely
Learn this skill and everyone will look forward to seeing you
If you want to become the person everyone looks forward to seeing, learn how to give a compliment with style. The sincere compliment is a gift more valuable than anything found in a store, and offering them is an easy skill to develop. Growing this skill makes you a more naturally popular person, which leads to more positive interactions with everyone. It’s a great way to make everyone feel better, especially you.
The best compliments are heartfelt and specific. They are offered with a smile and without the expectation of anything in return. It takes an observant nature and a genuine desire to spread joy. It’s an interesting experiment, really, to spend a whole day looking for something to admire about every person you encounter. So many people tend to seek out the negatives instead, and the fact is that there is something delightful about every single person you see. Even if you have to look hard sometimes to find it, it’s worth it to cultivate your ability to find the best part of everyone.
It’s actually a time when the “Golden Rule” (treating people the way you want to be treated) is very valuable. Think about a time when you felt that another person noticed something about you and took the time to mention it. Felt really great, right? Human beings have an inherent desire to be seen, noticed and admired. The sad truth is that people are more likely to speak up with a complaint than a compliment. Remembering how wonderful it was to be complimented and striving to help others feel this way is easy to achieve, if you take the time to carefully observe and listen. You’ll be amazed at the details that you start to notice. The next step is the easiest of all – let the other person know that you noticed. Communicate to another person that he or she has been seen and appreciated.
A compliment does not have to be eloquent or complex. Just make eye contact, smile and simply state what you have noticed. “That’s a great sweater!” “You have a beautiful smile.” “I really like the way you handled that!” “What a gorgeous baby!” It’s really that easy. And, it’s incredibly powerful. Give a compliment, and you give an invaluable gift to another person. Truly, we never know what might have been going on for that other person. It could be the high point of a very challenging day for someone else. It could be the first time he or she has smiled. And that sincere compliment takes very little time and no money to accomplish. Just some attention and a desire to spread happiness to others.
Perhaps the most amazing thing of all about the gift of a sincere compliment is that it is a gift both to the recipient and the giver. Helping other people feel better about themselves makes you feel better by default. The goodwill spreads and leads to more observation and appreciation, more sincere compliments, a generally happier environment. It’s a great win win situation. So, work to develop your skills in giving compliments to others. It’s simple and rewarding to everyone.